You're engaged, now what?

Congratulations! Now What?

So you're engaged! A whirlwind of excitement, congratulations, and perhaps a touch of overwhelm is completely normal. This guide will break down your initial steps into manageable, actionable tasks. Let's dive in!

Step 1: Bask in the Glow (and Announce!)

Before jumping into spreadsheets and vendor lists, take time to enjoy this special moment. Celebrate with loved ones and officially announce your engagement to family and friends. This is your time to relish the joy!

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Step 2: Initial Budget Chat

Engage in a candid conversation regarding your wedding budget. Identify who will be contributing and create a realistic spending plan. This plan will serve as a foundation for all your future decisions. In 2025, the average cost of a wedding was $36,000, accommodating 125 to 150 guests.

Step 3: Guest List Estimate

Start by compiling a preliminary guest list. While it doesn't need to be set in stone, having an estimate will significantly impact your venue choices and overall budget. Identify your 'must-have' guests and expand from that foundation.

Pro Tip: If needed, create A, B, and C lists to effectively organize your guest list.

Step 4: Dream Venue & Date Range

Brainstorm your ideal wedding style and location. Research potential venues and identify a few that align with your vision and budget. Consider a date range that works for you and your key guests.

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Step 5: Start a Wedding File (Digital or Physical)

Organize your ideas, contracts, and inspiration in one place. Whether it's a digital folder on your computer or a physical binder, a centralized system will keep you on track. 

Step 6: Research Wedding Planners (Optional)

Decide if you want to hire a wedding planner. If so, research local planners, read reviews, and schedule consultations. A planner can be invaluable in navigating the planning process.

Step 7: Inspiration Overload – Curate Your Style

Dive into wedding blogs, magazines, and Pinterest! Gather inspiration for your wedding style, colors, and overall aesthetic. Create mood boards to visualize your dream wedding.

Step 8: Prioritize Your Vendors

Identify your top 3-5 most important vendors (e.g., venue, photographer, caterer). These are the vendors you'll want to book first, as they tend to have limited availability.

Step 9: Preliminary Vendor Outreach

Contact your prioritized vendors to inquire about their availability and pricing. Schedule consultations to discuss your vision and determine if they're a good fit.

Step 10: Celebrate the Small Wins!

Wedding planning can be a marathon, not a sprint. Remember to celebrate each milestone, no matter how small. Treat yourselves, take breaks, and enjoy the journey!

Next Steps

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